Disappointed

A little disappointed lately with how things are going in life.  On a good note we were approved for a house, on the down side, now we can't find anything.  We plan on continuing to look just nothing new is coming up in our price range.

Yesterday we got a text from the kids mom asking them to come to thier cousin's birthday party.  Understandable, right? Um what I don't understand is the kids have not even received a phone call from her since before christmas and she has not once made contact with us to try and see them in over a year! Why the sudden interest in them now?  It just aggravates me because all the crying and worrying and couseling the kids have been through dealing with this and now she wants to just pop back in and be a mom again?  I really truely just don't understand at all.  It seems to be that when it's convenient for her then it's ok.  I'm sorry I just want the kids to be happy and safe and with her past of everything popping in and out of their lives all the time is not healthy for them.  It just confuses them more and then upsets them when she stops seeing or calling them.  Not really sure what to do.  It's not an issue for her to see them but it would probably be better in a public place where we all can meet and visit with the kids but if she never asks how are we supposed to know?

I love my kids more than anything but it upsets me that she does this to them.  Not only when they are around her they come home and treat me badly because she fills thier heads with crap about me just b/c she doesn't like me.  She says she doesn't but the kids have told us all the names etc she has called us and things she talks about in front of them.  We do not do that at home.  I could care less what she does with her life there.  As long as the kids are taken care of and don't have to listen to all the drama and get them worked up.  She is not brought up unless the kids bring her up.

Just sick and tired of the drama and stress this causes.  It's sad to when Travis tries to work things out with her that she just hangs up or leaves.  She will not listen to what he has to say about the kids.  In my eyes that just shows she's not concerned to see them or wants to care for them.

What to do what to do?  I'm lost really.